Facing Accusations

                                   And we know that God causes all things to

                                    work together for the good of those that love

                                    God, to those that are called according to

                                    His purpose.

                                                 ( Romans 8:28-29 NASB)

 

In any kind  endeavor towards  communicating with any person, even with those you love, there is always the possibility of accusation. When it comes to accusation, whether that accusation is true or false, very few of us have every become immune to the pain of accusation.  Very few Christians can truthful proclaim, that they have gain the ability through their Christian walk, to turn the other cheek. In fact, most Christians are more than willing to lay down their lives for the Lord, but few are willing to stop letting their feelings get hurt by accusation. 

The simple truth, not one single person can with all honest say that they have never criticized another person, including myself,. The fact is, we all tend to give in to our dark side once in a while. After all, satin is called by many names, but his most effective guise has been that of the “accuser of the brethren”. Accusation has been his most effective weapon for destroying the light and witness of the Body of Christ, and for destroying relationships.  Our ability to accomplish our purpose as Children of God,  will be determines by the degree in which we can deal affective with  are tendency towards accusation.

Every human being has to deal with accusation of some sort. By the most part we tend to ignore a great deal of criticism that comes are way. But when we are ill or in pain, even the most minor accusation can cause us a great deal of unwanted pain.  Especially, when we find ourselves being accused by those that we are depending on to give us the support and compassion that we need,in order to face life's trials

The most important people in our life, when we are in pain are those with in the church, and in our  family. Criticism from any of these sources can leave us feeling devastated, and feeling forced to battle our trials alone with out a shoulder to lean on.

Why do people criticize us?

I have heard many excuses for accusing another person, and have made up a few myself.  Some accusations may seem noble and justified, such as protecting the sheep from wolves in sheep’s clothing, or protecting the truth, usually the truth as we see it.  But rarely is there an accusation with in the church or with in the home, that is not rooted in territorial issues, or self-preservation. 

Criticism of any kind is the ultimate manifestation of pride. Because when we accuse another, we are actually saying that we are superior to them. That we have more knowledge and wisdom, and that they should bow to what we know to be the truth. 

A family member that criticizes, doesn’t usually accused because of any real animosity . They criticize because they have pride in their own opinion and beliefs. They are flowing in  pride even when they are being verbally abusive.

 A Christian who criticizes others does it out of pride in their beliefs. They have come to believe that they are right in their beliefs and everyone is wrong.  Pride brings that which any rational Christian should try to avoid, because of Gods resistance. For God resist the proud, but give grace to the humble. ( James 4:6) More to the point, A wholesome tongue is a tree of life…( Proverbs 15:4a) 

 A Christian  should always strive to bring life. To be a person that encourages other people rather than  tare them down, even if they are walking in sin. For no Christian should ever want to be a  stumbling block. He said   but whosoever shall  offend one of these little ones which believeth in me, it were   better for him that a millstone were hanged around his neck and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea. ( Matthew 18:6) But very few Christians take this scripture to heart and try to make any endeavor to control their way wards tongue.

Healing power  of facing accusations

  

 Facing accusation  from any source can be very devastating, but it can also be healing if we look at criticism and consider the source. It rarely does any good to argue with someone that is accusing you, doing so will lead to a lot of unnecessary pain and misunderstandings. It therefore become vital to our sense of well being to face accusation with a maturity.

Facing criticism from the church can help you grow in decrement, you will learn who you can trust with the information about your life and who you can‘t. With proper discernment, you will learn what is right and healthy teachings with in the church, and to put aside those  teachings will  cause you a lot of unnecessary pain and hardship, and which teaching lead us in to a deeper and more intimate relationship with the Lord. 

Facing family accusations can and will teach us, if we let it, to be open and honest about our pain, fears, and doubts with those we love. It can also open a new dimension in our relationship with our family members, if we learn to have a little more patents with their ignorance about our who we are as a person.

But the only true way that we can truly deal with constructively with accusations, is through forgiveness.